Kına Gece:: Part II

The Long Rock and I have been talking a lot lately. We have been trying to work out Traditions from both American and Turkish Weddings that we like and dislike and come up with our own unique wedding suited for us. 
 We decided that we are not doing Kına Gece. 

The reason for this is because we have been following many people that have been doing this and we realized that the couples here in Turkey just want one more things to do to make people pay them gold and money in order to do this and "Nişanlı" For my American and non-Turkish readers, Nişanlı is meaning Engagement. They ahve a Ceremony where they promise eachother to each other in front of family, friends and everyone else they decide to invite. At this time people are obliged to give them money and gold. 
 Say what you want, it is a tradition and how it helps the couple get a start on their wedding, but really, it is just another way to get more money. 
We have been engaged now for two years. This is how we did it. 
I knew he was going to ask me it was a matter of when. 
I left for worwk and it was a night class and so I did not get home until 10 pm. I came into the home and my light was on in my room which is odd. I went to my room and right before I did so, The Long Rock came running down the hallway and said "Wait wait wait!!!" barrelled by me to turn off my light. Then, said, "Now come in!" I had no idea what was going on and he got down on one knee, and said, "Please, look up." and I did. There were glow in the dark stars that spelled out "MARRY ME" on the ceiling. He opened up the ring that he had bought me and put it on my finger and told me how much he loved me. 
  We then told the family. THAT to us was more than anything. We did not want or need people giving us gold and money only to give us more on our Wedding Day. 
 Our being engaged is about us, not buying three different dresses or more, and trying to out do the neighbors wedding. 
The Long Rock has always hated Kına. When he had his Sünnet (I should post about it later, but baiscally,I am opposed to the Turkish Tradition of Sunnets) The Long Rock had to have Kına on his hands as per tradition. He got annoyed it was on his hand and put it on the face of the Imam that was preforming the Sünnet. He has always told me that he did not like Kına Gece and he doesn2t like the noise and hte music played at Kına Gece. 
  We were "Hummm-Haw" over the last couple of years, trying to figure out if this is what we really want to do. After I showed The Long rock what we traditonally do in USA, two things we were clear about in USA we don't want here in Turkey. 

Throwing the Garter Belt (Those are sooo stupid) As a matter of fact, having one, we just don't want one. (In particular: I don't want one)
and  Throwing the Bouquet (Dumb! Why do I want to throw my bouquet?!?)
Decorating the Brides and Groom Car::: Not my thing at ALL 

And so, as I post the Kına Gece and my former post I wrote that we were trying to decide what we are doing, it will not be that the night before our wedding. 
But, we do have some other things in store. 
You my readers will have to be lookng for my posts, and reading to find out what we do, how we celebrate.