Kına Gece:: Part II

The Long Rock and I have been talking a lot lately. We have been trying to work out Traditions from both American and Turkish Weddings that we like and dislike and come up with our own unique wedding suited for us. 
 We decided that we are not doing Kına Gece. 

The reason for this is because we have been following many people that have been doing this and we realized that the couples here in Turkey just want one more things to do to make people pay them gold and money in order to do this and "Nişanlı" For my American and non-Turkish readers, Nişanlı is meaning Engagement. They ahve a Ceremony where they promise eachother to each other in front of family, friends and everyone else they decide to invite. At this time people are obliged to give them money and gold. 
 Say what you want, it is a tradition and how it helps the couple get a start on their wedding, but really, it is just another way to get more money. 
We have been engaged now for two years. This is how we did it. 
I knew he was going to ask me it was a matter of when. 
I left for worwk and it was a night class and so I did not get home until 10 pm. I came into the home and my light was on in my room which is odd. I went to my room and right before I did so, The Long Rock came running down the hallway and said "Wait wait wait!!!" barrelled by me to turn off my light. Then, said, "Now come in!" I had no idea what was going on and he got down on one knee, and said, "Please, look up." and I did. There were glow in the dark stars that spelled out "MARRY ME" on the ceiling. He opened up the ring that he had bought me and put it on my finger and told me how much he loved me. 
  We then told the family. THAT to us was more than anything. We did not want or need people giving us gold and money only to give us more on our Wedding Day. 
 Our being engaged is about us, not buying three different dresses or more, and trying to out do the neighbors wedding. 
The Long Rock has always hated Kına. When he had his Sünnet (I should post about it later, but baiscally,I am opposed to the Turkish Tradition of Sunnets) The Long Rock had to have Kına on his hands as per tradition. He got annoyed it was on his hand and put it on the face of the Imam that was preforming the Sünnet. He has always told me that he did not like Kına Gece and he doesn2t like the noise and hte music played at Kına Gece. 
  We were "Hummm-Haw" over the last couple of years, trying to figure out if this is what we really want to do. After I showed The Long rock what we traditonally do in USA, two things we were clear about in USA we don't want here in Turkey. 

Throwing the Garter Belt (Those are sooo stupid) As a matter of fact, having one, we just don't want one. (In particular: I don't want one)
and  Throwing the Bouquet (Dumb! Why do I want to throw my bouquet?!?)
Decorating the Brides and Groom Car::: Not my thing at ALL 

And so, as I post the Kına Gece and my former post I wrote that we were trying to decide what we are doing, it will not be that the night before our wedding. 
But, we do have some other things in store. 
You my readers will have to be lookng for my posts, and reading to find out what we do, how we celebrate. 
 

Call Me Crazy, But:::

I FREAKING LOVE This stuff. 

  This is called Kuru Fasulye. (kudu fasool-ye the same a sound in the word ate.) I am sorry to my dear Turkish Readers if I am spelling it wrong. (Yes, I meant to capitalize Readers because I am using it in a Title of respect because you wonderful wonderful people of Turkey have grabbed my heart, and made me the American that LOVES Turkey.) 

  

Now, for you Americans or non-Turks. This is a version of Navy Beans or White beans and cooked with other things and I wanted to tell you all how to make it. 

Why? I love this stuff so much and I wanted to show you how to do it because I am freaking awesome. 

This food is ooooh so good. There is some down stairs right now in The Long Rock's apt, but since it is 2:23am and I do not want to wake anyone up, I will have to wait til morning to eat some... But I am craving this right now and IF I had some I would be eating it up here. "sigh"

Recipe: 

White Beans (Kuru Fasulye)

3 cups white beans (Navy Beans are ok) 

1 Onion

2 Carrots

2 Tbsp. Tomato Paste

1 Tbsp Red Pepper Paste (IF it is available)

2 Tbsp Olive Oil

 Black pepper to taste

Salt to taste

8 cups water

Method

Soak beans over night. Drain and boil in a large pot for about 45 minutes. (or until somewhat soft)

Drain and set aside

In a large pot heat up olive oil and add tomato paste and pepper paste. Add onion and carrots and cook until onion is transparent and carrots are cooked all the way through. 

 Then, What my Turkish mom does is takes a fine strainer and smashes the onion, carrots and paste through it, and makes it into a fine paste ish red paste. Then, gets water back into the white beans on the stove adds water to is so that it is like a soup not too much water but not too dry either, and the smashed paste with the onions are added to the  pot of beans to finish cooking.I have seen it kind of boiling to get it kind of thick. It looks like Baked Bean Soup. Serve Hot! 

It is served with hot peppers served on the side, fresh French Bread, yogurt, and sometimes Beef is added in the soup. Depending on where you go, but this family I live with prefers it without meat (yay!)

I have heard other people put it over rice, but in this family we don't really serve it that way. 

I got the picture off the internet on resimle yemeklik. Something like that. 

 I love this so much. There is a song with Kuru Fasulye in it!!! Please look below:  It is not about Kuru Fasulye, It is about a man that wants to marry a woman, but anyway... Here it is!!!

Also , I would like to tell you about this dish a little. It is a very old staple dish dating back to the Ottoman Empire Kitchen. This means that although there are variations of this dish, anywhere that the Ottoman Empire Ruled, you will find a variation of this dish. I hope you cook it and enjoy it! Let me know what you think or if you have questions about how to cook it, I would like to hear from you! Post it on my blog! 

Peace! 

and as we say in Turkey Afiyat Olsun!!! (Bon Apetit)

I forgot to mention

Had forgotten to tell you about my Lottery Ticket. 

  I got one as a gift from Erkan's dad, on the 23rd of December. I found out on the night of December 31st that I did not have the winning ticket. Every year, for New Year people will buy a lottery ticket, it is a Tradition.

  I went online and went to the webpage where, basically words came up saying, "We are Sorry, Your Number Stinks" only those were my interpretation of what it said. 

Here is my first Lottery Ticket I have ever had in my life. 

Turkish Coffee and Fortune Telling

I think this is the fourth or third time I have written about Turkish Coffee Reading. 

  I am really fascinated with this part of Turkish Culture. I am also fascinated with Chinese old Tradition of Tea Leaf Reading, but I don't know a lot about it. 

Anyway, Today my mother in law to be was having a Luncheon with her friends who are also her cousins and they get together every 4 weeks, sometimes every 5 weeks and they will have some nice food and they will always have Turkish Coffee. They have said if you have coffee with someone you will be friends forever. 

It is some Turkish Proverb, well there are a couple...

"Coffee should be as black as hell, strong as death and sweet as love"

Another,  "One cup of Coffee has the memories of 40 years".

Turkish Coffee is not just a Tradition of coffee, it is the memory of being with friends, enjoying the conversation, and the reading the coffee granules.

   The coffee grains are so fine you can not drink them, however you let them sit at the bottom of the mug, or cup. 

 I wanted to add some pictures of today's Luncheon.

The Cup is read first, then the bottom of the cup, then the plate. It is really interesting to me

Turkish Cofffee and Fortune Telling II

First off... I love the new color choices I get with this new format... 
Thanks, Blogger. However, I hate the new format... I find it not as easy to navigate, I really have to say I hate changing! 

 Anyway

As I recall I was going to post to see if thing in my Fortune telling was true... 

Let me see

I copied and pasted parts... There was one thing I remember I did not write on my blog about what she said but I remember what she said... I do not know right now if I should say anything or not, but I will write what I have at the time


She said She saw me in a Wedding dress (yeah yeah yeah... Of course. )  Well, I did try on dresses, but I am not inclined to purchase any right now, But we are still getting married. I will not say more about it...

 She then said she saw one little girl that is very special in my life and is about 12 years old and she said this girl looks just like me, and wants to come to my wedding (Beka???) I said there are a couple very special family members in my life. VERY Dear to me... She said she saw them, but one girl cries for me to come back to USA. (wow!) DEAD ON

  Then she said  a Wedding, not mine, not in Turkey, but I will be going to. (My niece Dani!?!August 6th Wedding Reception) I wanted to go...I regret not going

  She said she saw me with candles in my hand going up stairs and wearing a pretty dress. (I am not buying into that is my Kına because really... I am not doing Kına Night) So, I don't know what that is about Umm... Still Don't Know what she means

 She then said that I have someone in my family very ill, and it will make me not want to return to Turkey until the person is better.  (hmmmm) I have a friend a couple of them that have health issues and I have been worried about them and  a couple of friends that are going through some hard times and I have been worried about them. And My dad has been slowing down a lot which makes me want to be in USA rather than here.

 She said that there are three people in USA waiting me more excitedly than anyone else in my family (Shahira, Connor, Beka?) She said I will spend more time with those three people more than anyone else and will not want to come back to Turkey because of my missing them. She said they are really special in my life and can see they are very beloved by me. Yep Yep Yep

She said that she sees SO MANY people in USA that are really excited for my arrival I did have many people that wanted to see me and sadly some people I wanted to see but was not able to

She said that my dad said to not come back to Turkey but that he will surprise me and come to the airport and she said that he said he will not be in The city that I will land in when I am in USA but she said he will be waiting for me at the air port (Whoooaaaa!!! I never told her or A that I wanted my dad at the airport, and he was not coming to the airport) My dad was not at the Airport and my dad told me to stay in Turkey and not come to USA because he thought it would make The Long Rock and I argue. To this day we argue about parts of USA When I went back to this day

  She then said that I am worried about someone dying but that he will not die while I am in Turkey. (my dad? I always worry that I will be here when anyone passes away) No family close to me has died yet... Knock on  wood

 She then said that Three people will cry while I am in USA that are in Turkey and they will want be back. One person really is scared about me going and not coming back. Yes... I will not say more. I have been really crying a lot about this

She said that One person loves me so much but he does not tell everything how he feels (I said Zippy only not Zippy his real name... She smiled and said Yes) I sometimes wish he would though. It is hard for me

  She said that My mom will try to trick me in to staying in USA and she did not want me to come to Turkey but that she will not me to leave. She said there are going to be family members that say they are not coming to my wedding but she said she saw some of my family members at my wedding  As per my mom trying to trick me to staying... My mom is not that way. how would she try to trick me? My mom likes to play little jokes, harmless ones, and my mom likes to surprise people with little sweet gifts but my mom would not try to "Trick" me to staying. My mom did however try to talk me into staying in USA, but my mom is more up front and confronts me and my mom when it comes to her criticisms she does not hold back, so my mom is very open with me about her wanting me to stay. But, she never tried to trick me. Sigh... As per the people in my family coming to Turkey for my Wedding: I hope this happens. I have been having a hard time with this. I am really sad about it.But My FRIENDS whom I will most likely pass off as family when they get here because they look like family... Do in fact want to come and I have about a group of 15-20... I hope they will come when it gets time to commit. But we don't have a wedding date and I promised my friends I would give them about 9 months notice because they have to save, and notify work... It would be rude any other way.

 She said that many people keep trying to make it so that zippy and I are not  married and every time he tries to plan for something for us someone tries to take his plans because they do not want to see him married right now Yes, I feel that very strongly. I have more to say about this topic but I am keeping it to myself.

 She said that he (my guy İ love) keeps trying to surprise me and someone keeps telling him he can't do it or someone keeps breaking his surprise to me. I don't know... I guess so. But I am not sure

She said she saw the surprise and when I asked for her to tell me the surprise, she said she does not want to kill it again but that it is an amazing surprise and she said that Zippy needs me to tell him that "the surprise will happen and to not listen to others"...  Still do not know what the surprise is.I think it was The Long Rock and I going to Bodrum... BLAST

She said that she saw my man and I getting things for our home together and she said that she saw Zippy in USA faster than when we thought.  I freaking hope and wish

  She said she saw something like my boss begging me to come back to work for him.  OMG... OK so this one is right on. I eventually told him I will not work with liars and I have to get paid to work. He has stopped calling me and sending me emails.

 So... 

Lets see what happens this next few weeks. 
Last year: I was told to wait for three packages. A few weeks later, I did get three packages! (this was from Zippys mom's cousin)

So... I don't know... I think she was dead on with most of it.

  I think that Long Rock really wanted to take me on a Vacation and we did go on one... Was the surprise that?

Oh, She also said something about a home and how my dad wants to surprise me with one...Well, My dad wants to... She said he is preparing a home for us...well... Kind of  yes

So... I thought it was interesting how well she did for me and A not telling her anything about me before.

And A does not lnow all of my story either... So... Wow...

I hear that the Chinese have Tea Leaf reading... I would like to experience that.

Kına Gece (Henna Night)

Since I have been living here I have been intrigued with the idea of going to a Kına Gece. Of course I have never heard of it before I came here, and I must say, I only wanted to go to settle this curiosity. I, honestly must add that I wanted to go to see, but I have never really thought of it as in interest for me to participate. 
  For my readers outside Turkey or those that do not know what Henna night is, Let me tell you as an outsider what it is. 
 It is usually held the night before a couple gets married. Sometimes a few days but usually the night before the Bride and Groom marry. What it entails is the Bride will invite those whom wish to see her in a small Ceremony if you can say. It is like a right of passage for lack of better words. 
 The Bride will have it in the street of her neighborhood, sometimes in a large event hall, and the evening will start with a meal given by the Bride and Grooms families. Sometimes, just the Bride's family. 
  She will be dressed in a silk pant and shirt with a jacket that is as long as the pants. The pants are gathered at the bottom and her head is covered with a hat that is squared on the top and everything is very intricately embroidered. (pictures will follow) Traditionally the Groom wears a traditonal Turkish outfit but modern Grooms are not wearing them anymore.
The Groom, bride and families will dance after eating and sharing their meal with the guests. 
  After a while of dancing and Brides dances and Grooms dances, the ceremony will begin. 
 The Bride will lower her veil over her face, and girls will come out with the bride and they will walk in a circle around her as she sits in the middle. A decorated tray will have the Kına on it and they will go around her while music (traditional Kına songs) is played. 
After the tray is brought to the middle of the circle, the Mother of the Bride and Groom will sit in front of the Bride and each will put Henna on her hands and then put a gold coin on her hand then cover her hands with a silk glove type mitten to keep the henna from going all over everything. 
 The Groom will come and carry her off, as a sign that she is leaving home and starting a new home with her husband. 
  This is a very big tradition in Turkey, and I was invited to go to a couple of them. I had the chance of going to one. It was Long Rock's cousin's Kına Night. Here are the pictures of that night. 
 I wanted to go to a friends of mine as she is really close to me but Long Rock told me to chose between Kına or Her Wedding, and since I was doing her Wedding bouquet and her Flowers for the Groom and two of the family members, I was compelled to go that. Sadly and traumatically I did not make it to that either. Maybe someday I can blog about it but right now I am not compelled to speak about the details as to why I did not make it to such a sweet friend's wedding. I will post those Kına Night pictures now

Sister in Law (brother's wife) passing the tray to the bride. Tray is with Kına

Bride's family placing the Kına on the left hand

Groom's family placing the Kına on the Right hand

After the Kına is placed, the two families dance

Bride's mother on the Left, Grooms mother on the right, Bride in the Middle

Groom, Bride's mother, Bride, Groom's mother

Girl with the butterfly shirt is an unknown person. But she seemed like a friend or cousin of the Bride...

Two Families do some more dancing

Bride's mother, Groom, Bride's sister in law, bride's Brother, Bride's nephew, Bride's dad. One big happy family

 

Turkish Coffee and Fortune Telling

So, I am using blue because it is supposed to be the "trustworthy" color. 
Yesterday I walked all over Çorlu to get out of the house and because there were about 30 women praying in Anneanne's home. Of course I was invited and I have not gone, but I needed to get out of the house anyway. At 3:30 in the afternoon I was supposed to meet A for a cola as it will be one of the last times I will see her before I go to USA for a month. A said that although she knows I am coming back she said she feels really traumatized that I am leaving because she never had a friend like me and she will miss me so much. That was such sweet girl talk, it is nice to have a friend like that. 
   Anyway, back to my story. 
 We had an offer for a long time now to go to A's future mother-in-law's for Turkish coffee and a Fortune Telling in the coffee grinds. Have you heard of it? 
 Now, please know It for me is all in fun and many people do not believe it and many people do. I do not know what to think. I have to tell you of my coffee reading experiences. You be the judge? 
 You can believe whatever you want but I will just let you think after reading my story... 
 So, A and I since we were just having cola, said ok. (I can only be busy for so long, and this little cute Turkish woman has been for months saying that she wanted to read my coffee) 
  First of all, let me give you a little back ground on this tradition. Turkish coffee has been part of the Ottoman Empire Tradition. Turkish Coffee is different from most coffees all over because the grinds are kept in the cup. 
   The coffee is ground like fine powder and usually is from Morrocco, but it is not about where it is from but the grinds being fine. 
    The other thing about Turkish Coffee is the preparation.
 The grinds are usually two teaspoons per one cup of coffee. İt is put into a pot called a çevze. It has a long handle that is placed over the stove, and nowadays you can find an electric one. I have seen it used both ways. I have even made it with milk instead of water, but when making it milk, never place it in the electric çevze. The milk will ruin it, and ruin the coffee too. 
  Anyway, when the water is boiled with the coffee grinds, the grinds become frothy. This is when you take the froth and you put it evenly in the coffee cups, after removing the çevze from the heat. The çevze is then returned to the heat, and reboiled, and the coffee is disbursed into each other the cups. Sugar is added before the boiling process when measuring the coffee grinds in the çevze. You can have it Medium Sugar, no sugar, little sugar. There are other variations to this, also, but this is how Turkish Coffee is made.
  All the coffee grinds sink to the bottom of the cup and the actual coffee, which is unique in flavor because of the method of brewing and the method of the grinding, and once you get to the bottom of the coffee where there are only grind, you do not drink that. 
  Now, onto the Coffee reading. The person traditionally doing the reading offers to read the grinds. After the coffee has been drank, the person drinking the coffee takes the saucer and covers the coffee mug, and swirls the coffee around, then flips over the coffee mug so the mug is upside down. Place the mug handle to the person that is getting the reading (ergo If I am getting read, I will put the mug handle pointing to me). Then, wait. you want all the grinds to go onto the saucer. After a few minutes, about 6-10 minutes, the reader will start reading the inside of the cup from the handle going right to left. Sometimes readers can see things in the past and some things in the future. Traditional readers say they can not read more than 40 days in the future, but I have seen people able to read further. 
  They see shapes sometimes animals, other people, flowers, and can interpret them from the things they see. 
 So, A's Furture mother in law said the following things and I wanted to record them now and compare over this summer to what she said and see what happens... Fun? Yeah... I thought so.. also I wanted this to be proof that I am not making this up... ErgoWhen I post this I do not predate it or post date it... See?? Smart am I... 
  Anyway: Here is what she said (Mind you We have not spoken before and I never said things to A to help this woman out)
  She said She saw me in a Wedding dress (yeah yeah yeah... Of course. )
 She then said she saw one little girl that is very special in my life and is about 12 years old and she said this girl looks just like me, and wants to come to my wedding (Beka???) I said there are a couple very special family members in my life. VERY Dear to me... She said she saw them, but one girl cries for me to come back to USA. (wow!)
  Then she said  a Wedding, not mine, not in Turkey, but I will be going to. (My neice Dani!?!August 6th Wedding Reception)
  She said she saw me with candles in my hand going up stairs and wearing a pretty dress. (I am not buying into that is my Kına because really... I am not doing Kına Night) So, I don't know what that is about
 She then said that I have someone in my family very ill, and it will make me not want to return to Turkey until the person is better.  (hmmmm)
 She said that there are three people in USA waiting me more excitedly than anyone else in my family (Shahira, Connor, Beka?) She said I will spend more time with those three peole more than anyone else and will not want to come back to Turkey because of my missing them. She said they are really special in my life and can see they are very beloved by me. 
She said that she sees SO MANY people in USA that are really excited for my arrival
She said that my dad said to not come back to Turkey but that he will surprise me and come to the airport and she said that he said he will not be in The city that I will land in when I am in USA but she said he will be waiting for me at the air port (Whoooaaaa!!! I never told her or A that I wanted my dad at the airport, and he was not coming to the airport)
  She then said that I am worried about someone dying but that he will not die while I am in Turkey. (my dad? I always worry that I will be here when anyone passes away)
 She then said that Three people will cry while I am in USA that are in Turkey and they will want be back. One person really is scared about me going and not coming back. 
She said that One person loves me so much but he does not tell everything how he feels (I said Zippy only not Zippy his real name... She smiled and said Yes)
  She said that My mom will try to trick me in to staying in USA and she did not want me to come to Turkey but that she will not me to leave. She said there are going to be family members that say they are not coming to my wedding but she said she saw some of my family members at my wedding
 She said that many people keep trying to make it so that zippy and I are not  married and everytime he tries to plan for something for us someone tries to take his plans because they do not want to see him married right now
 She said that he (my guy İ love) keeps trying to surprise me and someone keeps telling him he can't do it or someone keeps breaking his surprise to me. 
She said she saw the surprise and when I asked for her to tell me the surprise, she said she does not want to kill it again but that it is an amazing surprise and she said that Zippy needs me to tell him that "the surprise will happen and to not listen to others"... 
She said that she saw my man and I getting things for our home together and she said that she saw Zippy in USA faster than when we thought. 
  She said she saw something like my boss begging me to come back to work for him. 
 So... 
Lets see what happens this next few wees. 
Last year: I was told to wait for three packages. A few weeks later, I did get three packages! (this was from Zippys mom cousin)

sadly not me, missing camera. but this is what Turkish coffee reading looks like

  I will have to update this in the upcoming weeks... 

Two more things I need to add ::: It is 6 am on Saturday June 25th: 
She said that my parents are planning a surprise in thier home (maybe decorations? Just for me)
 and 
 Something about a dog. She said she saw a dog and wanted to tell me about my dog... But I have been wanting to get one...  
 

One of the things I have not been able to fully accomplish

I have always heard of different toilets that are all over the world and I have been fortunate to travel to all regions. I love seeing new places and new things and one of the things that is very important to me is toilets.  I have one kidney. So, I drink a lot of water. drinking a lot of water causes me to pee a lot which is good because that means my kidney is functioning. So, naturally when I am out and about I go to public bathrooms. I try not to though. I really hate public bathrooms honestly. I hate that I am in a cesspool of unknown bacteria. and I hate hate hate blow drying hand dryers. To me they are more dirty than anything. Drying hot air onto my hands just does not cut it and there is going to come a day that they will not work and you will see... I will not say I warned you thusly... 'cause I am sayin' it now. So, you can imagine when I went to Spain and the toilet paper was like crepe paper sometimes. My mom was great. She bought the "expensive" stuff... It was simply stuff that we were more used to. The landlord heard that he Americans did not douche because we were more clean and that was done away with in the 1970's so she brought toilet paper for us.. Which was more like thin cardboard and I even tried bringing back from Spain but my dad said I collected too much stuff and made me throw it out. My adventure to a toilet in Dubai at the cultural center was just hilarious and I will have to blog about it one day. 
  So it brings me to Turkey. I love Turkey so much. I have this man that is so patient with me and one of the things he is so sweet about is the fact that I am not Turkish toilet trained but he adores me anyway! 
   Here is a picture of a Traditional Turkish Toilet

This is not mine but this type is all over Turkey

Now, this is the thing... Some homes have the American toilet, but about 80% of the homes still have this type toilet and I am so grateful! Snuggle's mom and dad remodeled thier home about 2 years ago and installed a new Western Toilet and so down stairs we have two types toilet. However, Snuggles Grandma has this type. I get really super lazy at the end of the day and I go in this toilet so iI donn't have to go down stairs to go pee. I usually sleep with a teeshirt and underwear and I don't want to go down stairs all dressed and come back up stairs. Besides, Anne (Mom in Turkish) forgets to take the key out of the door which locks the door and makes it so that I can not go in with a key anyway. I never want to wake them just so I can go pee. So I have opted this alternative. 
  Mind you, I am so much better at peeing in them than I used to be. I do this: I take off everything from the wait down then put on the toilet slippers: Yes.. You have to wear toilet slippers and not regular shoes or barefooted. Then I put a foot on each side of the toilet and squat. I have to back up a bit because for some reason... My body is weird and just like at camp my pee does one of two things: Shoots straight out or right down my leg. So... I lean back a bit. Normally you should not have to. The water spicket and bucket are for cleaning yourself after and those are on the left side of you but I have to enter the opposite way ... I don't know whay::: Because I am used to backing into an American toilet maybe??? 
  Anyway... 
This is how it is supposed to be done: 
Roll up your pants to the knees. take off your shoes and put on the toilet slippers.
 Stand on the toilet and make sure the spicket of water and bucket is on the left side of you. Squat down and pee. Use the spicket of water and bucket to clean yourself off with and then use toilet paper to dry yourself and throw away the toilet paper in the trash or in the trash container. I never have a problem putting the toilet paper in the toilet, but in some older regions they have problems with the sewge getting backed up... Not in the big cities though. 
Flush the toilet and empty the water bucket in the toilet. 
Then leave the toilet and put your shoes back on. 
 Wash your hands in the sink with a lot of soap.
This does not always work out for me and usully I might have to wait a couple more hours before I can find a tilet that I like when I am in public. 
 You are supposed to pay the attendant and when I go and do not use the toilet I pay less. 
 I hope that I can master this but I am not too worried. 
We will have both in our home.   :D
  I will once we have pictures of our home, give everyone a virtual tour, much to snuggles shagrin!