On Mother

Because I can not have written more eloquently, I have to just quote Kahlil Gibran instead:
     
     "The most beautiful word on hte lips of mankind is the word, "Mother", and the most beautiful call is the call of "My Mother". It is a word full of hope, and love, a sweet and kind word coming from the depths of the heart. The mother is everything - She is our consulation in sorrow, our hope in misery, and our strength in weakness. She is hte source of love, mercy, and forgiveness...

    Everything in nature bespeaks the mother. The sun is the mother of earth and it gives it it's nourishment of heart, it never leaves the universe at night until it has put the earth to sleep to the song of the sea, and the hymn of the birds and brooks. And this earth is the mother of trees and flowers. It produces them, nurses them, and weans them. The trees and flowers become kind mothers of their great fruits and seeds. And the mother, hte prototype of all existence, is the eternal spirit, full of beauty and love."

Happy Mother's Day to all you women out there who read my blog. Every woman is a mother in one way or another. 

A Normal Mother's Day

Normally, my kids are running into my room bringing me breakfast in bed, going to church, singing reall cute songs to me, making me cards, and after church we go out and do something special. Usually it involves me not having to Cook. HAha. Often it would involve me and my kids spending time in a park and us playing in the sun and getting some great sun in. 

   I miss my kids. Terribly. This year, I thought I would not be emotional on Mother's Day but I think I am more emotional. I miss my kids more and more. 

 I was supposed to get a Skype call from them today, but I think my son who is currently in Brazil has been really busy with a bunch of things he is doing today. I guess that means I will not be able to talk to him. 

 I have not been able to call my kids this year. Normally for the last since I have been here I have been able to call my family in USA. Well, strangely this phone does not allow me to call. I think it is just an old phone but I have tried calling my dad, my mom, my kids, everyone on my cell phone and it does not allow me to. It is the strangest thing. 

  So, I am kind of feeling more far and lonely. Today is normally a Spend the whole day with my kids day. But it has not been that for me lately. I feel really sad about it today. 

 Anyway, I hope I get a job in USA soon sot hat that will change. I am rather melancholy today. Please forgive me.

Mother's Day 2012

It is Mother's Day today. I have been a mom now for 22 years, 2 months and 28 days. My first born son was born on a Friday. I never really like calling it Mother's Day and I love my mom, but in Church they had all the Mothers Stand up and to honor her, the Ward would give them all a gift for her to take home. I never felt comfortable with that either. There are many Women that were not married. Many women could not nor can not bear children, and I did not like the notion of someone giving me flowers on Mother's Day if they were not my child. But, I have always thought that Mother's Day should be everyday and that Women all over the World should be honored.
 I was reading status today and came across a wonderful post by the dearest sweetest person I know and she called it Women's Day not just Mother's Day. I love it. We should be Celebrating being women. We should be honored as Women and children should ALWAYS set one day aside to give their mom individually a special thank you but, Mother's Day should not be inclusive to just Mothers. What about those that want children but can not. I love to say... Happy Women's Day. Yes, we have International Women's Day on April 8th I think it is but you know what? There should be more recognition for the great women that shape the wonderful people we have in Society. We as women should celebrate our Femininity and our diversity and that is why I say to everyone... Happy Women's Day. 

It is not the best picture of me, but it is such a good picture of my Turkish Mother and Grandma

 

Me Myself and My Mom

My mom and I have a very special relationship. As I have over the last year been living here in Turkey and my mom is in USA, I have grown to appreciate and love and miss her more than I have all my life. You know the saying, "Don't take advantage of something you have because once it's gone you will miss it more"? OK, so maybe that is not exactly the real saying but there is something about missing it more once you lose something... Right? (Right) So... My mom is far far away from me and since in a couple days it will be Mother's Day I thought it is most important to write about my mom and me.
   I was born in the early 1970's and my mom was a single mother. Of course, it is all too common to be a single mother now, but it was not all that common when I was growing up and it is not easy in any universe to be a single mother at anytime. Such was the case for my mom. My mom was 20 when I was born and she did not chose to be a single mother. Her husband was not really nice to her and he pretty much just took off and come to think of it, although as a child I very much wanted a father in the home, I had mom and that was all the warmth and love I needed. My mom was very good to us. I had a younger sister too and an older one. It was us 4 always doing things. My mom took us to the beach often. My mom loved the beach and we lived in San Diego California. I loved it there. My mom always read to us. My mom loved books and would read and read for us. At night, she would read to us a story, sing us a song and kiss us good night. My mom always smelled so good.
  Mom married when I was 10 and for a couple of years I tried testing this new man's patience. They are still married to this day so they are still deeply in love.
  My mom never has said anything about anyone in a gossipy way. Mom NEVER EVER gossips. I have never heard my mom say anything negative either. The one thing I know mom hates are rats and mice. She will TOLERATE Guinea Pigs... for one year: Because I had one. She will not go in any room knowingly if there is a rodent in the room... But looking back, Guinea Pigs are supposed to have a life span of  5-7 years but I think mom thought that they had the same as a mouse which is a lot less like one or two years and so after Valentine was 2 years old, she talked me into trading her for a Bird. Come to think of it, my dad did not allow the pet shop owner to let me walk out the front door with the Guinea Pig. I am sure my dad had to pay the owner of the shop to take my Guinea pig... I will have to blog that story one day... this is about my mom.
   Mom never said anything bad about a neighbor of ours that used to watch us from across the street with binoculars. Another blog for another day. And mom never said anything bad about anyone in her family which she had the right to do. Mom used to dance around the kitchen with us and sing with us. My mom took me to my first concert: Neil Diamond. My mom always taught me about God. She taught me to pray and she always said nothing is impossible with God. My mom always taught me with a soft heart and soft words, any argument can be settled. My mom never ever yelled at me. Nor my other siblings. My mom hated lying, and crudeness. I had a tenancy to use potty words when I was upset or annoyed. My mom taught me to use proper words and not potty words. My mom taught me about woman's rights too. My mom was a feminist in the sense that women deserve to be treated in a loving and kind way. My mom is all about women being treated right in a bad and harsh and men world. My mom taught me how to love. My mom had a really hard life and faced adversity in her life. However, my mom used grace, love, forgiveness, kindness and honor and sophistication to become a more beautiful more kind and generous person. My mom is the person I hope to be one day. I am grateful for my mom and all she sacrificed for a better life for me. My mom is my best friend, biggest fan, and the one that listens to me when it feels like no one else wants to hear me. Thanks mom for being so awesome! How lucky I am to have such a beautiful person raise me to be the best person I can be! Thank you mom for believing in me and Thanks mom for being my chauffeur, cook, nurse, fashion consultant, vacation partner, beach buddy, walking partner, shopping buddy , craft friend, and anything else you did for me I did not mention! I love you Mom!