Well, The Saturday of June 10th, went well. We were able to see my uncle R and 3 of the 5 monkeys were with me. The number three monkey, (She prefers I not say her name) , arrived about 9:25 Saturday night.
It was really joyful. That night, of course, started the phone calls from the Death Star, and a certain person that wanted to see all the kids together. I mean, every EVERY hour or couple of hours, their phones were ringing ringing ringing... Well, Connor's and Beka's. He was getting really annoyed with those two kids who did nothing and had to go with their Grandma's plans. Well, I must on the way to R's house, mom and I talked. It was really nice, but in the back of my mind, I wanted to talk to my mom about the emails and talk to her about how she thought I was "negative" and so, we were on a ride somehow, at one point, coming from the store and right before getting Monkey #3 on Saturday. I said to my mom, "Mom? Can you please forgive me for being so stressed and so negative about my coming here?" She said "I have no idea what you are talking about, honey" and so I told my mom about how whilst in Turkey, I just kept getting emails from X(aka The Death Star) saying that he was coming out to see his kids and that he was on a trip for only his birthday and to see the kids and it was HIS time on and on... Well, my mom said she was completely unaware of what happened and she was really angry at The Death Star.
I told my mom about the emails between me and my dad. My mom was annoyed with my dad at that point and said her side of the story: This is what happened.
Co-co was coming home June 7th and my mom called Monkey 3 and my kids and asked them if they were going to Co-co's Home coming. Remember Connor and Beka are under-age but the three older kids can do what they want because they are adults. My mom saw that Connor had a Football Camp to go to and that he would not be able to miss a lot of practices because he is a Sophomore on the Varsity Team and so this was really important. Well, my mom saw a window of time that was right before the Home Coming. It was only a few days before the 17th which was also fathers day. Monkey #3 asked my mom is she would call John to see if John was willing to drive Co-co and Wazzie to the LAX on the 8th of June and come get them on the 13 and that would give Co-co plenty of time to re-cooperate and take care of things before he was spending his life in Southern California, etc etc . Monkey #3 had a bunch of things to do this Summer and My mom called X. My mom asked X what kind of plans they had for the Home Coming. He said he was going to drive to California for The Home Coming. Well, mom said would X be willing to allow the kids a few days in Vegas to see their brothers and sisters. X said he would think about it but a couple of days later, Mom was tired of talking to him because he is such a jerk to me and mom really dislikes him. My Dad thought to talk to him. Dad found out that X had not seen Jericho, Wazzie or Third Monkey (Which he is NOT Their Legal Father!!! HE does not even share any of his DNA with them) And so For some reason unknown to mom and I dad took pity on X(The Death Star) mom said next things she knew it, they (mom and dad) after hanging up with X were bickering back and forth about how The Death Star just changed all the plans and worked his way into the plans. Mom thought that it would be great that X had gone to California and did his own thing but next thing mom knew it The Death Star had said... Well I want to come to Vegas and be with the kids too.
So, I was stuck with the out come. Mom and I were really angry that this guy would step in and have this much control and cunning- ness. Mom was so angry because she feels protective over the kids and me.
I was fit to be tied. He does this kind of stuff all along. And no one sees what a horrible guy he is.
Well, now they do.
Well, Apparently, I found out Co-co and Third Monkey were in no fit nor wanted to even do anything with him either. No one. They thought, OK we will spend one day with him on Monday, we will hang out on The Strip and that would be that. Well, I spoke with Jericho and Jericho thought X would go away if they went to the Temple together on Tuesday morning. He then told the kids I want to take you guys out for my Birthday Dinner and started to complain to Connor and Beka about how he did not get anytime with them. He was angry and saying how this trip was about his Birthday but how I (Deej) Had changed everything. Well, I did not do one thing. Actually I did in fact tell the kids. You are adults. Do what makes you happy. But Third Monkey and Co-co said that they were worried that Connor and Beka would get a lot of the harshness back in AZ.
Connor then told me the only reason why he is not living with me is because he wants to establish himself in Sports and he can not move int eh middle of school years and stuff or his playing career will be jeopardized. Jericho told me that he did not want to go with Jeff but he felt like he wanted to keep the peace and Third Monkey just full fledged thought it was asinine that she would have to be around that family. The Blow??? The Death Star did in fact make it about him! Because he brought his girl friend and his mom and dad with him. The Death Stars GF said to my mom which mom told me: We are not here to disturb your family plans. We are able to make our own plans. I did not hear that part of any conversation and I told mom that I actually like his girl friend, just he is a total jerk and I can not see why she wants to stay with him and since she said that at least she can see that he is also being a jerk.
Anyway... They had to hang out with him for most of their trip and because they were late getting to The Strip, they were late meeting with us and that meant we were a little getting back home from The Strip.
Am I the only one that loves The Strip? I could have spent more time. Co-co said "Vegas is a place I want to take my wife when I get married and we can go hand out and do things with her"
Third Monkey wanted to go at night as with the younger kids. But, we lost time. But we did go on family walks, Jericho got sick and so I wanted to take care of him and make sure he was feeling better.
I felt really horrible for the Monkeys, because they were uncomfortable, and so I never told them how I felt because they were getting enough stress from The Death Star. And That was just unfair for these poor kids. Even as adults, I felt like they can feel and do what they wanted. I wanted the trip to be about them. About how awesome they are. I hope they knew that from me. If the Death Star was going to be a jerk about the situation, at least, they can have fun with me.
My monkeys are freaking awesome. They were troopers and I love them and am so proud of them
It was so hard for me to have to say good bye to Co-co. I, that night, just cried and cried. All that day when I would go in the bath room, I would sob, come out and be fine.
Sigh... That is how I handle it every time.
My kids will never know how much I love them, but I hope they know at some point in life... If they can feel some of the love I feel for them, then I am doing my job...
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